Stefan Arestis Nov 16, 2020
Posted in The Philippines
Most travellers backpacking around Asia also told us the same thing – they came to the Philippines with low expectations but ended up leaving completely besotted with the place!
The Philippines has 7,641 islands of which only 2,000 are inhabited. That’s a shed load of tropical beaches to discover. The country also straddles the Coral Triangle, which makes it a paradise for underwater adventurers – we had some of the best snorkelling and scuba diving experiences here, particularly in the waters around Palawan.
And, it’s super gay friendly! We rate the Philippines as one of the most gay friendly countries in Asia. Whilst it has a long way to go with its LGBTQ laws (as does almost every country in Asia), this was one of the rare countries in Asia where we felt super welcome as a gay couple.
We put this down to the Filipinos. They are extremely friendly, warm and fun-loving people – the “Filipino hospitality” is a thing which they highly value.
We were fortunate to make many LGBTQ Filipino friends during our travels, both in the Philippines and elsewhere. We reached out to them to give us their opinion on why they think the Philippines is so gay friendly and awesome!
We specifically asked each of them to answer these 2 questions and have printed their answers below:
- What is it about the Philippines that makes it so gay friendly? 🏳️🌈
- Where in the Philippines would you take Mr Right? 💗
DJ Yabis – living in Essen, Germany
The Philippines is very gay friendly because the country is pretty gay! Although being gay is still frowned upon in most places, Filipino gays are pretty out and loud. It helps a lot that there are many visible gays on TV and in various media, like the TV presenter Vice Ganda and transgender actress and model BB Gandanghari.
I would take Mr Right on a diving trip all over the Philippines. Actually, I already did! The best dive spots from my experience are in Batangas, Cebu, Bohol, Palawan and of course the Tubbataha reef.
Check out DJ’s awesome blog: Dream Euro Trip.
Regina Ladera – living in Bangkok, Thailand
It is a fact that Filipinos are friendly and happy people. We are optimistic and always believe that for every challenge in life, there’s always a positive solution. Although becoming transgender was not an easy process, it was greatly helped by all my family and friends around me who all just accepted me for who I am.
I would take Mr Right: to my beautiful hometown of Iloilo City, which is nicknamed The City of Love. We have a lot of natural beauty as well as many stunning beaches. And, as you can imagine, Valentines Day is a particularly special time in the City of Love.
Check out Regina’s awesome interview about her life as a transgender female in Asia.
Girard Philip Espanola Bonotan – living in Jakarta, Indonesia
Filipinos are friendly to all visitors, gay or straight. We’re eager to meet tourists and show them around. People’s attitudes towards the LGBTQ community have shifted a great deal over the years and it helps that there are increasingly more gay personalities in the media. People belonging to the LGBT community are more tolerated rather than fully accepted, but I’m quite positive attitudes are moving towards the latter, albeit slowly.
Check out Girard’s sassy blog for more fun Pinoy insights.
Max Fel Thomas – living in London, UK
Well boys, it’s because we Filipinos are famous for being hospitable to visitors and especially to foreigners. We love them! We are also well-travelled and speak English. This makes us more open-minded and tolerant. However, there are large parts of the country where gays are not well accepted by society, which is the same everywhere I guess. Thankfully the new generation are more open-minded than ever and I am confident of a lot of progress and change for our LGBTQ community.
I would take Mr Right: to climb up to Lake Kayangan at Coron Island in Palawan. One word: amazing! It is a challenge to reach, but I assure you that you’d do anything and everything to show Mr Right this beautiful place. Then at the top, Mr Right would use this moment to propose to me. Then after saying yes, we’d go swimming together in the lake, clothes off, in the glowing moonlight!
Rione Palacios – living in Manila, Philippines
We are regarded as a gay friendly nation because we possess a warm, welcoming, fun and friendly spirit. We spent 300 years in a Spanish convent and 50 years in Hollywood – hahaha! But as a result, this has shaped us to be more open-minded as to what is different and more accepting of change.
I would take Mr Right: to Cebu, where I am originally from because it possesses a distinct personality you just won’t find anywhere else in the Philippines. In 30 minutes you can be at a mountaintop resort enjoying fresh produce and inhaling the fresh country air, or you can be by the sea enjoying our fantastic beaches, eating delicious Cebu Lechon (roasted suckling pig) for lunch.
Dennis Baldoria – living in Manila, Philippines
I think the influence of show business is the main reason. So many elected public officials used to be in this industry, which shows the strong showbiz influence in Filipino society. Yes, we are naturally drama queens the lot of us! And, since there is always a gay personality behind every showbiz success story, this has positively influenced how the public sees gay people.
Although the negative stereotypes of being gay were proven to be untrue by these famous gay personalities, being gay is only tolerated and is not yet completely accepted by Filipino society (but a tolerant society = a gay friendly society).https://imasdk.googleapis.com/js/core/bridge3.431.0_en.html#goog_879207304https://3f89fa36e373bbd5c862a1c6ba7cecca.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-37/html/container.html
I would take Mr Right: to Paradise, of course, ie Palawan island, particularly to Coron or a nearby remote island where a nipa (wooden stilt) hut is set-up but isn’t necessarily connected to a power grid to provide electricity.
Patrick Limcaco – living in Bangkok, Thailand
Go to Greenbelt Mall in Makati, hold hands with your boyfriend (without irony) and the worst that could happen is you will get provocative, mildly shocked, quietly unnerved stares. And that’s it. You won’t get stoned, called names, or publicly shamed by conservative Catholics who might feel scandalised by the sight of two buff boys showing very visible signs of affection towards each other. Greenbelt is a classy, family mall, of course, so take that into consideration.
When you go out into the streets of (Metro) Manila and behave the same way, it might be a different experience altogether. If by gay-friendly, you mean people are not outwardly hostile, then yes! The Philippines is gay-friendly. Just stay away from the comments section of the Filipino dailies because the amount of vitriol in some of them is just too much.
I would take Mr Right: to one of the many stranded sandy beaches of Palawan island (actually, Mr Wrong wouldn’t be so out of place there, either!). I would also take him to cold Baguio and Sagada, Mountain Province where you can hold hands as much as you wanted underneath all the layers of clothing.
Patrick is a fellow geek and has an excellent blog to prove it.
Arnold Peneda – living in San Diego, USA
Compared to the USA, where I was raised, the Philippines is not as accepting of gays, especially now that gay marriage laws have finally been passed by the US Supreme Court. Despite this, the Philippines is one of the most gay friendly destinations in Asia because the people are more relaxed, easy-going and welcoming to all.
I would take Mr Right: to Boracay island because we could dress up and learn to swim like mermaids together just like you boys did!
Ryan Alba – living in El Nido, Philippines
The Philippines is seen as gay friendly because a large amount of our economy depends on tourism, hospitality and catering, each of which naturally attracts the pink pound.
I would take Mr Right: to my home town in Dipolog City and introduce him to my family and all the good people I know and then take him to the most beautiful place I have been to, which is Ginto Island. What follows next will be the greatest adventure!
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Stefan is the co-founder, editor and author of the gay travel blog nomadicboys.com. As a travel nerd, he has explored more than 80 countries across 5 continents. What he loves the most about travelling is discovering the local gay scene, making new friends and learning new cultures. His advice about LGBTQ travel has been featured in Gay Times, Gaycities, Pink News, Gay Star News, Attitude and Towleroad. He has also written about gay travel for other non-gay specific publications including Lonely Planet, The New York Times, The Guardian and The Huffington Post. Stefan is also a qualified lawyer, having practised as a commercial property litigator in London for over 10 years. He left his lawyer days behind to work full time on Nomadic Boys with his husband Sebastien. Find out more about Nomadic Boys.